About the author

Lotte Jeffs is a journalist who’s been published in the Independent, the Guardian, the Saturday Times, the Sunday Times, the Evening Standard, ES Magazine, High Life, ELLE and more. In 2016 Lotte won Writer of The Year at the Press and Publishing Association Awards and in 2017 was shortlisted for Columnist of the Year for her eponymous ELLE Magazine column Lotte’s Lexicon. Lotte has been a features writer and columnist for the past 15 years, with previous roles including Features Editor and Acting Deputy Editor of ES Magazine and Deputy Editor and Acting Editor in Chief of ELLE. Lotte is now Creative Director at global advertising agency Ogilvy and continues to write a column for the Evening Standard, in addition to writing for the national press and newspaper and magazine supplements.

Photo credit: Brendan Fraser.

How to be a Gentlewoman: The Art of Soft Power in Hard Times

How to be a Gentlewoman is pitched as somewhere between the bestselling non-fiction Everything I Know About Love by Dolly Alderton, and Nora Ephron for the Trump-aghast world. It will present an antidote to the often brutal and aggressive conditions of modern life by asking the reader to embrace a way of being that has gentleness (to oneself and others) at its centre. Lotte’s first ever book weaves powerful memoir with practical advice and a psychological deep dive into what truly constitutes a meaningful and happy existence. It posits that it is engaging with others, being emotionally attuned, and deft both in negotiation and relationships that ultimately will help us to discover our real and lasting power.

Contributors will include Elizabeth Day, Romy Madley Croft (the lead singer of The XX), Paris Lees, Gina Martin, Clara Amfo, Alex Eagle, and Lorraine Candy as well as archaelogists, artists, happiness consultants, and academics.

Praise for How to be a Gentlewoman:

“This is brilliant and timely” – Elizabeth Day